Holyoke v. Holyoke

.Divorce. “Extreme cruelty." “Gruel and abusive treatment.” Libel. Demurrer. Falsely charging infidelity. •“Extreme cruelty,” as the third cause for divorce in the act of 1883, means “ personal violence,” intentionally inflicted, so serious as to endanger “life, limb or health,” or to create reasonable apprehension of such danger. Whatever treatment is proved in each particular case to seriously impair, or to seriously threaten to impair, either body or mind, endangers “ life, limb or health,” and constitutes “ cruel and abusive treatment,” the sixth cause for divorce in that act. 'The false charge of infidelity is not legal cruelty, but ih a given case, may be proved to so operate. '.The averment in a libel for divorce, that the conduct specifically charged impaired, or seriously threatened to impair health, is sufficient on general demurrer, without particularly stating how the health was impaired.

On EXCEPTIONS to the ruling of the justice presiding in .-sustaining a demurrer to the following libel for divorce [omitting formal part] : "That he always conducted himself as a faithful, chaste and affectionate husband, but that the said [libellee,] wholly regardless of her marriage vows and obligations, has been guilty of cruel and abusive treatment of him in this : that between the 1st of January, 1885, and the date of this libel, almost daily, when he was at home, she would continually and incessantly charge him with want of chastity, with different women and at different times, all of which was groundless and unfounded; this not only privately to him, but frequently at his own table and in the presence of his children, [one or both] aged 4 and 15 respectively, and sometimes in the presence of his servant. That between the dates last mentioned his business frequently called him away from home for a longer or shorter time, and no matter where he went or when he went she met him invariably with the accusation that he had a woman with him during his absence. That between the dates before mentioned, at his dinner table she has called him a liar, a whoremaster, and used words of similar import frequently in the presence of one or both of his children, and the servant. That the usual and general tone and character of the conversation she addressed to him whenever he was in the house, was of the description indicated by the foregoing allegations and that it was incessant day and night; in fact she never spoke to him about general matters or matters about the house unless she was obliged to. That between the dates mentioned, it has come to his knowledge that she went to her friends and acquaintances, and circulated among them all sorts of charges of unchastity against your libellant. That in the management of the children, and by her acts, language and deportment and treatment of your libellant, in their presence, she has endeavored to estrange from him, both of said children. That she refused and has refused to cohabit with him since the middle of June last, without any just cause whatever, and has occupied another bed by herself, all of said time, and fails to take any interest in his comfort and to bestow any care upon his clothing, or do any other wifely act. That she avoids and ignores him in his own house so far as she can, and that her treatment of him as before indicated, has rendered his home so unhappy, that existence in it longer than is necessary for food and shelter is utterly uusupportable. "And your libellant avers, that these acts of his wife, her said, charges and her treatment of him, and conduct toward him as hereinbefore stated, have so affected his peace of mind and his, feelings, as to affect his health and endanger his health for the future, and that she has been guilty thereby of cruel and abusive treatment of him.” cited: Carpenter v. Carpenter, 1 Pac. Bep. 122 and cases cited; Bailey v. Bailey, 97 Mass. 373; Kelly v. Kelly, 51 Am. R. 732 ; Pinkard v. Pinkard, 14 Tex. 356 ; Jones v. Jones, 60 Tex. 469 ; Scott v. Scott, 61 Tex. 119 ; Balm v. Balm, 62 Tex. 518 ; Lewis v. Lewis, 5 Missouri, 278 ; Smith v. Smith, 8 Oregon, 101; McMahan v. McMahan, 9 Oregon, 525; Palmer v. Palmer, 45 Mich. 150 ; Kennedy v. Kennedy, 73 N. Y. 369 ; Kelly v. Kelly, 2 L. E. (Pro. & Div.) 31; 1 Bish. Mar. & Div. § § 725, 732, 733. What constitutes cruel and abusive treatment, as such phrase is used in the statutes of this state relating to divorce has not yet been judicially determined, the statutes now existing upon the subject having been in force only since 1883. "•A statute of this sort ought to be, and commonly is, construed in harmony with the unwritten law. Within this principle, most of the statutes creating a jurisdiction to give divorce for cruelty are interpreted to mean, simply and only, the cruelty which was the ground for divorce from bed and board in England when our country was settled.” 1 Bishop on Mar. &Div. § 718. (6th ed.) " The general happiness of the married life is secured by its indissolubility. When people understand that they must live together, except for a very few reasons known to the law, they have to soften, by mutual accommodations, that yoke which they know they cannot shake off; they become good husbands and wives from the necessity of remaining husbands and wives.” Evans v. Evans, 1 Hagg. Con. 35. This passage was cited by the court in the case of Bailey v. Bailey, 97 Mass. 373,380, as expressing the views under the influence of which the Massachusetts statute on the subject was passed, the general spirit of which is the same as that of the law of 1883, which we are considering. The same views are stated at a little more length in the note to the case of Morris v. Morris, 73 Am. Deo. 619 to 631, as the rule to be reduced from all the cases, as reviewed by the annotator, said note being the latest review of the authorities on the subject which we have been able to find. Divorces are to be granted on the ground of cruelty, or cruel and abusive treatment, if at all, not as punishment for offences committed, but as a protection against future probable acts of cruelty, this probability being based upon the former conduct, and the character and disposition of the parties. Note to Morris v. Morris, 73 Am. Dec. 622; 1 Bishop on Mar. & Div. § 719. All the circumstances together must be taken into consideration ; for the question is, not whether this or that fact alone would render it the duty of the court to pronounce for the separation, but whether all the facts combined ought to lead to that result. 1 Bishop on Mar. & Div. § 747. In England and most of our states, the doctrine, to which not an exception could easily be found, is abundantly established, that the apprehended harm must be bodily, in distinction from mental suffering. 1 Bishop Mar. & Div. § 722. There are some cases decided by the courts of some of the western states that go farther than this, but they are cases which we think this court is little likely to follow. These cases are referred to in the note to Morris v. Morris, before cited, as giving a new definition to the term cruelty, and as not being sustained by the cases they refer to as sustaining cases. See 73 Am. Dec. 622. All the authorities concur in holding that the causes of complaint which can justify a divorce must'be grave and weighty, and that courts should exercise much caution and discrimination in granting divorces. Barrero v. Barrere, 4 Johns, c. 187, 189. 1 Bishop on Mar. & Div. § 743. The court has no longer discretionary powers in the matter of divorce, the legislature having substituted for such discretionary powers certain stated causes, as before suggested, hence the doctrine of Huston v. Huston, 63 Maine, 184, is no longer applicable. The libel does not disclose any attempt on the part of the libellant to disabuse the mind of the libellee of the suspicions that evidently had in some way been instilled therein. The libel does not show that the libellee’s occupying a different bed by herself was not by his express request, or in consequence of his own conduct, or that he ever requested her to do otherwise ; it does not disclose any attempt- on his part to make a 113- use of the weapons of kindness and civility towards her, the wife of his choice; it does not show that he any way attempted to regain her affection, to persuade to more gentle waj^s; or that he so much as attempted to reason with her before filing the libel and preparing to drag his domestic infelicities into the light of publicity. The libel does not show how, by whq,t management, acts, language, deportment, and treatment of him, the libellee endeavored to estrange the children from him, nor does it state that the attempt was successful as to either child. It does not disclose how his health was affected, whether favorable or unfavorably, or to what extent; it does not state whether such effect was lasting or temporary. If we assume that the libellant intended to charge that she withheld from the marital connection, and did so without just cause, though we admit nothing of the sort, and we do not accept a possible intention to allege, for an adequate allegation, no sufficient cause for divorce would then be alleged. Oowles v. Cowles, 112 Mass. 298; 1 Bishop on Mar. & Div. § 338, and cases cited. The effect upon the health, or the apprehended danger must be adequate^ serious ; it is not every slight and transient effect, even if it be physical, which will justif}' the extreme remedy for divorce. 1 Bishop on Mar. & Div. § 717. All the cases concur in holding that the apprehension of danger must be reasonable, or, as Lord Stowell stated it in Evans v. Evans, before cited, "it must not be an apprehension arising merely from an exquisite and diseased sensibility of the mind.” In considering this case we ask the court to compare the acts necessarily admitted by the demurrer to this libel with the facts proved in almost any one of the reported oases on the subject, and especially with the facts proved in the case of Kelly v. Kelly, Law Rep. 2 Pr. & Div. 81: S. C. on appeal same vol. 59.